HOW TO DETACH FROM MANIPULATORS?

It is disturbing to realize how many people would be willing to see you in emotional distress over them, for them. This usually happens to people with narcissistic parents or women in romantic relationships with insecure men. Many of us have asked why anyone would spend days and weeks strategizing how to hurt someone's feelings. 

I prefer that because you may be the only one giving them importance. No one else really gives them consideration, respect, or the level of attention you provide for them. In everyone else's life, they don't really matter, but in your life, you have set them on a pedestal and given them importance. Your life is the only place where they are respected, loved and forgiven. 

For those with ill intentions, it is a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity to feel superior to someone. To be in a position of power, and you are the stone they have to step on to feel higher, you volunteer for it because you give them importance in your life. Unfortunately, everything was fake, and it's time to detach yourself. It's worse than fasting or being on a diet. You have to stop looking for the emotional pleasure they were providing. 

Go back to a daily routine without involving them. Erase any action or conversation that will lead you to pronounce their names or include them. It is psychological warfare against your heart and mind. Take it one day at a time, you will get there. Remember, you were the pedestal, you are the throne; if you allow their words or actions to affect you, it gives them a grandeur that they have nowhere else than in your life. 

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